You scroll. You see her post. Her new car. Her sold-out program. The launch that made more in one month than you’ve made in a year. And your stomach drops. You feel that tightness in your chest, a lump in your throat, maybe even a wave of nausea.

Jealousy.

The emotion we’re taught to shove down, gloss over, perform through. Be a good girl. Clap politely. “Good for her!” (while rage-crying into your oat milk latte). But what if… what if jealousy is actually a gold mine?

Not petty. Not toxic. Not a moral failing. But sacred. Useful. A sneaky signal from your nervous system saying...  “Hey, we want that too”

This is the part no one tells you about. Jealousy is not about her. It's about you. It's your nervous system glitching in real-time, saying: “WAIT—this could be our life, but we don’t feel safe having it yet.”

Jealousy can get coded in one of two ways.

We either internalise it as shame, when we don’t know what to do with it. We experience it as a negative emotion. Shame that we’re not doing enough. Shame that we’re not her. 

Or, we externalise it and judge her success instead of celebrating and say things like... “She’s just unrelatable now.” “She probably inherited money.” “She only works 3 hours a week? Must be nice.”

What we’re really saying is: I don’t believe that what she has could be possible for me… and that pisses me off.

But what if our jealousy is actually data? A neon sign pointing you to your next income leap?

In reality... when you see her post, and that green-eyed monster pops up, it's not because you don’t want her to win. It’s because you want to win too.

And here’s where your nervous system steps in. It throws you into fight (“I’ll just outwork her”), flight (“I’ll never be that successful, why try?”), freeze (“Must be nice for some”), or fawn (“If I flatter her enough maybe some of her magic will rub off”).

Meanwhile, your financial goals remain on pause. Again.

Here’s what’s actually happening

You’ve done the mindset work. You’ve recited the affirmations. You’ve even tried charging more (then panicked and discounted mid-sentence). Because deep down, your nervous system still doesn’t feel safe with more money, more visibility, more “success". So when you see another woman do the thing, your system screams: DANGER.

The jealousy isn’t the issue. The dysregulation is.

And look, I’ve been there. I’ve scrolled in silence, seeing women in Greece on yachts, sipping champagne and launching offers while I’m in my dressing gown wondering if I’ll ever have the guts to raise my prices. I’ve smiled on the outside while crumbling with comparison on the inside. I’ve sat in that loop of “why not me?” for way too long.

But when I started treating jealousy like a breadcrumb trail instead of a red flag, everything changed.

I stopped spiraling into shame. I stopped turning my envy into judgement. I stopped making her win mean something about my worth.

Instead, I asked:
💭 What does this show me about what I deeply want?
💭 Where do I still feel unsafe having it?
💭 What am I making her success mean about me?

Your jealousy is not petty. It’s potent. It’s a mirror, reflecting the next level of you.. the version who does take Thursdays off, who does pay in full, who does have a waitlist.

But only if you know how to use it.

Here’s what I want you to do next time the jealousy hits (and it will):

1. Name it. Literally say: “I’m feeling jealous.” Not “off,” not “weird,” not “low-vibe.” Jealous. Name the damn thing.

2. Locate it. Where does it sit in your body? Your throat? Chest? Gut? Get curious, not critical.

3. Ask it. Say: “What part of this doesn’t feel safe for me yet?” Let the answers surprise you.

4. Flip it. “If I’m jealous of this, it means I want it. Am I willing to believe it’s possible for me, too?”

That last part? That’s the magic. Because once you let yourself believe that what triggered you is also meant for you? You get your power back.

Your financial goals don’t live on someone else’s feed. They live in your nervous system, and whether it’s wired for more or just-enough-to-survive.

💸 You know you’re meant for more, but every time you try to level up financially, something stops you.  It’s not that you’re bad with money, it’s that your nervous system is stuck in survival mode.

I get it! That's why I help women just like you rewire their nervous system’s response to wealth, so they can stop living in financial fear, break the feast-or-famine cycle, and finally feel safe earning, keeping, and growing their money.

Because financial confidence isn’t just about knowing what to do... it’s about being able to hold wealth without stress, guilt, or panic. And when your body stops seeing money as a threat? Everything changes.

What next? 

Click here to listen to the Rich Woman Rising podcast episode

Click here to take the free quiz to see whether your nervous system is secretly keeping you stuck making more money.

Ready to step into your Expansive Self? Let’s regulate yourself to riches!