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Eloise Tomkins: Welcome to the rich woman rising. Podcast I'm your host, Eloise Tompkins. And I'm a money coach and psychologist helping women in business to make more money in a way that feels good so that they can have a business that's regulated and lets them keep the money that they're making
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Eloise Tomkins: today. Actually, no. Before we jump in today's episode, I want to share the fire and fortune wealth activation event that I'm hosting because I think you might enjoy this, if you can relate to knowing that you are the one holding yourself back from making more money. And yes, I know that sounds confronting. But hear me out. I promise this is going somewhere, because often we know we know that we are the one that's kind of
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Eloise Tomkins: somehow holding ourselves back. We don't know how. We don't know why
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Eloise Tomkins: we can see this pattern kind of playing out in some way, shape or form, but we still find ourselves stuck in it, and a lot of women will kind of describe it as feeling as though they've got one foot on the accelerator and the other on the brake. When it comes to making money they will have a successful launch. They'll raise their prices, they'll feel good, and then they'll unintentionally sabotage it by saying yes to a client when they could see the red flags waving, and they're like crap. Why did I do that?
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Eloise Tomkins: And they find themselves in this constant push, pull, making money, pulling back, making money, pulling back, and kind of keeping themselves in this financial
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Eloise Tomkins: air. Quote comfort zone, because it's not particularly comfortable. But it's comfortable to your nervous system. So if you want to understand why you do that, and how you can break free of that, then that is exactly why I have created fire and fortune the 3 day, or I don't want to say 3 day, because it's not 3 days. It's 3 sessions over 3 days where we unpack that
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Eloise Tomkins: it's $27. The link is in the show notes. So come along. If that sounds like it's relevant to you. I would love to see you there.
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Eloise Tomkins: And today's episode. I want to
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Eloise Tomkins: tell you something that might piss a few people off.
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Eloise Tomkins: But I'm going to go there. I don't care, because it needs to be said.
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Eloise Tomkins: You know how you have been told by well-meaning people. Oh, gosh! They're so well-meaning! But, my God! Does it grate my gears when people say.
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Eloise Tomkins: Trust your gut, listen to your intuition.
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Eloise Tomkins: Well, I hate to tell you this, but you have been lied to.
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Eloise Tomkins: not intentionally, because, like I said, well-meaning, however, those stories are keeping you stuck.
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Eloise Tomkins: Here's what I mean.
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Eloise Tomkins: We make business decisions that feel right, that feel good to us.
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Eloise Tomkins: or maybe something feels off. We can't quite pinpoint it. But we're like, Oh, something feels off. I'm not going to do it.
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Eloise Tomkins: For example, maybe you know that you want to raise your prices, but every time you go to do it something just gets in the way. Oh, it's my partner's birthday, and oh, there's just too much going on. I don't have time to deal with this. I'll do it next week, and then next week becomes next month, and then next month becomes 6 months, and
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Eloise Tomkins: you have successfully avoided it. Or maybe you don't launch the program because you just don't have a good feeling about it.
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Eloise Tomkins: or you don't put there. Put yourself out there because you don't want to be visible because you're not ready. You need to get another qualification first, st
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Eloise Tomkins: and it feels good. In a sense.
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Eloise Tomkins: there's something about that that feels reassuring, like, okay.
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Eloise Tomkins: well, I was listening to my intuition. I was following my gut makes sense. I'm doing the right thing
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Eloise Tomkins: and all of the personal development. Gurus, that's what they tell you. Follow your intuition. Let it be. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
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Eloise Tomkins: But as my psychologist's brain
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Eloise Tomkins: wants to let you know, this is not actually you trusting yourself.
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Eloise Tomkins: not trusting yourself. Okay? And the reason for that is because when we think about where that emotion is, that's kind of telling you. Oh, don't do it. It's not the right time. It is usually
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Eloise Tomkins: in our stomach, it is usually in our chest. It is usually in our throat. We have not in our stomach, maybe where our heart's beating faster, or maybe we've got a headache when we think about it, and we get tension in our shoulders.
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Eloise Tomkins: and then we interpret that as no.
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Eloise Tomkins: And so then what we do. We don't do it, we feel good. But do you know what we're actually listening to?
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Eloise Tomkins: All of that is fear.
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Eloise Tomkins: So when we are trusting our intuition, based on those signals that our body is giving us.
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Eloise Tomkins: that is, via or anxiety. However, you know, varying on that spectrum.
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Eloise Tomkins: But we have told ourselves that it's okay. It's our intuition.
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Eloise Tomkins: We can listen to it, because that's what we're meant to do. If something doesn't feel right, don't do it.
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Eloise Tomkins: And that's what keeps us stuck exactly where we are and why we don't move forward.
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Eloise Tomkins: It sounds counterintuitive.
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Eloise Tomkins: Hear me out, I promise you. I will explain.
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Eloise Tomkins: Let me share a bit of a client story with you, though, to give you a bit of a sense as to what I mean.
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Eloise Tomkins: Well, actually, it wasn't a client story. It was someone that I met. I think I might have spoken about it on the podcast before I can't. Remember.
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Eloise Tomkins: I just remember gosh! This is years ago, and they said, My business
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Eloise Tomkins: is just not a 6 figure business. They ran a coaching business.
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Eloise Tomkins: and they were doing similar work to me in the sense of using like somatic based work, they were doing Emdr and they kept hitting
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Eloise Tomkins: an income ceiling every time they got to between $94,000 to $96,000.
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Eloise Tomkins: It would cap consistently. And it happened for years, I reckon. I think, she said, about 7 years.
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Eloise Tomkins: I was like, oh, that's
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Eloise Tomkins: interesting. What? What's happening like that doesn't get you to the 6 figure mark, because you really wanted to get over 6 figures.
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Eloise Tomkins: She's like. Well, you know, I just don't think that my business is a 6 figure business. I just don't think that it's it's possible.
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Eloise Tomkins: like, okay, me being me. I was a little bit curious, and, you know, delved into it just a little more. And I was like, because I wanted to understand why, like what was going on.
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Eloise Tomkins: and it turns out that every time she would get to kind of the end of the financial year, and she'd be making her way to that 94 to $96,000. Mark her marketing would slow down. Her clients would wind up. She wouldn't have new clients on the horizon, because she's like, Well, I've hit my limit. Here we are.
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Eloise Tomkins: and so she would unknowingly
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Eloise Tomkins: keep repeating the pattern, which is why her business was not a 6 figure business.
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Eloise Tomkins: Had she have kept up with her marketing, then she would have
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Eloise Tomkins: crossed over that 6 figure threshold easily, but she didn't.
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Eloise Tomkins: because she was listening to something in her body that was saying, oh, well, it's time to slow down now.
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Eloise Tomkins: and she was using that as her kind of guiding wisdom rather than
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Eloise Tomkins: having a bit more critical thinking about what her body was telling her.
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Eloise Tomkins: And so she thought that was really smart and wise.
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Eloise Tomkins: and she thought that she was trusting herself.
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Eloise Tomkins: But what her nervous system was actually shouting at her was, This is dangerous. This doesn't feel safe crossing over that 6 figure threshold. There's something about that that feels really scary. Don't do it.
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Eloise Tomkins: So
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Eloise Tomkins: when we have been told things like, Trust your gut, listen to your intuition. Listen to your inner voice. If it feels right, don't do it, and there's probably more that you can think of that. People have told you
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Eloise Tomkins: that advice.
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Eloise Tomkins: It's not wrong. Let me just be clear that advice isn't wrong.
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Eloise Tomkins: It's actually really good advice.
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Eloise Tomkins: The problem is, nobody taught us how like how to tell the difference between our intuition and like our actual intuition versus our fear response.
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Eloise Tomkins: And so when we're making decisions based on this so-called intuition.
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Eloise Tomkins: But it's actually fear God. No wonder we're getting confused. No wonder we're frustrated that we're stuck because we think we're doing the right thing.
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Eloise Tomkins: But remember, and I've said this before I'll say it again. Your nervous system's 1 job
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Eloise Tomkins: is to keep you alive, that is it. It doesn't care about your happiness. It doesn't care about your wealth doesn't care about you being fulfilled, either. It just wants you alive. So to your nervous system, staying exactly where you are.
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Eloise Tomkins: actually feels a lot safer than making more money.
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Eloise Tomkins: Staying where you are, feels so much more safer than putting your face all over Instagram and having an asshole comment on your video and say something nasty
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Eloise Tomkins: staying exactly where you are feels so much more comfortable than changing.
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Eloise Tomkins: which is why some people love to hold on to this idea of. Well, I am listening to my intuition. No.
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Eloise Tomkins: I mean you can. Great. But if you're stuck and you're not changing, or you're not going where you want to go, then maybe it's time to examine why.
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Eloise Tomkins: that's why, when you think about doing something that does feel a little bit scary.
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Eloise Tomkins: like raising your prices, or having a difficult conversation with a client about money, or chasing up that unpaid invoice, or
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Eloise Tomkins: opening your bank balance. For example, your nervous system freaks out
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Eloise Tomkins: because it's got this association between money and danger.
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Eloise Tomkins: obviously, you know, logically, this is not true right? And this is where people can get a little bit.
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Eloise Tomkins: Oh, gosh! What's the word like?
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Eloise Tomkins: they're like, well, it doesn't know, because I want to make more money. I'm like, yes, your conscious brain, the 5% part of your brain wants you to make more money absolutely. But the 95% part of your brain, your nervous system, your subconscious. No, they don't care. They don't want you to make more money. They just want you to stay alive and safe. That is literally their job. So
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Eloise Tomkins: that is why we can often get stuck between intuition and that fear response so damn when we
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Eloise Tomkins: fear. I guess I was trying to think of what to call it. When we do have that fear response. We think it's intuition.
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Eloise Tomkins: It can sound so fucking logical like. It's ridiculous how logical it sounds, and really fascinates me when I hear it, because it sounds just
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Eloise Tomkins: It makes so much sense.
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Eloise Tomkins: except it doesn't. But it, but it like the way that we tell ourselves about it. It just makes so much sense. For example, I speak to women all the time about money. It's my job.
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Eloise Tomkins: and I hear it in so many conversations. Oh.
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Eloise Tomkins: yeah, I really want to be able to make more money. But if I were to make more money, then I'd have to change my business model, and if I change my business model I would have to pull back on how many clients I'm seeing which would reduce my income in the here and now, which means that I wouldn't be able to pay my current
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Eloise Tomkins: expenses. So I'll just think about it next year
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Eloise Tomkins: on the surface. That sounds so logical, right? Because you hear that. And you go. Oh, yeah. Well, that kind of tracks cool. You need to pay your bills. Yeah, of course, you need to be able to afford your bills, sure.
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Eloise Tomkins: What they don't tell you is that they've got a hundred K. Saved in their bank account
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Eloise Tomkins: for a rainy day. They haven't touched in years, because they're scared that if they spend that money. Then everything's just gonna boop.
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Eloise Tomkins: yeah tracks on the one hand. But on the other hand, we don't have the full story, and fiat is really good at creating logic.
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Eloise Tomkins: or when we have this thing like this. Kind of belief that says, Hmm.
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Eloise Tomkins: I don't know. Like I want to go into that investor meeting and ask for funding.
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Eloise Tomkins: But I don't know. There's just something that doesn't feel right about it.
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Eloise Tomkins: So what we interpret that to mean is, well, it must be wrong, because something doesn't feel right. Therefore I'm not going to do it doesn't feel good to me.
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Eloise Tomkins: But what if the reason that it doesn't feel good is because you haven't ever been in that situation before. So
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Eloise Tomkins: of course, it's not going to feel right because you've never done it before.
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Eloise Tomkins: and that's a very normal response to an unfamiliar situation.
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Eloise Tomkins: So again, fear sounds really logical.
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Eloise Tomkins: Now I'm going to go on a little side tangent because I obviously am a psychologist. I've done a lot of work in the mental health space, and I used to early in my career do some work with clients who were experiencing delusions.
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Eloise Tomkins: and I remember when I 1st started working with people who were experiencing delusions.
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Eloise Tomkins: they would say, some have some interesting beliefs.
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Eloise Tomkins: That were not founded in reality.
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Eloise Tomkins: Oh, my gosh! Is this true? And I remember being not confused, but like just like
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Eloise Tomkins: I. I can't tell that this isn't true, because they believe it so strongly. The reason that I'm sharing this with you is because.
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Eloise Tomkins: even though it wasn't their reality. Sorry it wasn't my reality, it was their reality, and to them it was true.
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Eloise Tomkins: It just felt so true. And I can't share. You know, obviously, the things that they spoke about for confidentiality reasons. But there was some really interesting stuff that would come out, and they like 100% believed it. And
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Eloise Tomkins: that's exactly how our fear response kind of comes out when we're trying to
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Eloise Tomkins: work through what is our intuition? It feels true, it feels logical, it feels right.
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Eloise Tomkins: And so we don't even really think to question it, because we're just like, okay. Now, obviously, I'm comparing delusion and fear. And they're not the same thing. Just to be clear on that. I'm not comparing
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Eloise Tomkins: apples and apples. They are 2 very different things, but I just thought it was an interesting example to share. Because we do.
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Eloise Tomkins: because it's not just a belief to us where we can go. Oh, yeah, that's just fear. I'm wanting to acknowledge that I understand how deep the fear response runs. And it's not just like a little flick of the switch to go. Oh, yeah, okay, that's just fear. I'll just not listen to that. If it were that easy. Oh, my goodness! I hope he had a job
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Eloise Tomkins: which I would love to be because that would hopefully help the world be a much better place. But here we are.
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Eloise Tomkins: the problem is as well is that sometimes the fear voice is right about the facts as well, which means that it can be tricky sometimes to
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Eloise Tomkins: something that you need to listen to. I know it's sounding doom and gloom at the moment. But I promise
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Eloise Tomkins: we're getting somewhere. Okay. There is a purpose, because
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Eloise Tomkins: you can never be fully prepared. You're never going to have everything quite right. You are never going to be 100% ready to launch, ready to increase your prices ready to do the thing. Maybe you could wait a little bit longer, sure.
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Eloise Tomkins: But here's what the fear voice doesn't tell you.
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Eloise Tomkins: You have that resilience. You have that capacity, but
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Eloise Tomkins: our brain will find any information to keep us
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Eloise Tomkins: looking for evidence that we shouldn't do it.
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Eloise Tomkins: So it's crazy. How
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Eloise Tomkins: So what we want to start to do now is to be able to tell the difference.
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Eloise Tomkins: And the way that we do that is, by understanding our nervous system.
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Eloise Tomkins: And what do I mean by that? Well.
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Eloise Tomkins: our nervous system communicates to us through our body.
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Eloise Tomkins: It communicates through how we feel.
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Eloise Tomkins: Information comes in through our body.
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Eloise Tomkins: And then what happens is, our brain interprets that and spits out a meaning which is where our thoughts come into it.
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Eloise Tomkins: But what we do is we into it? We hear the thoughts first, st
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Eloise Tomkins: and then assume that that must be true, and the sensation is is bad.
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Eloise Tomkins: and maybe it was the 1st time that we experienced it. For example, if we were a kid, and we witnessed our parents screaming about money, and we were only little.
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Eloise Tomkins: and we ran into our room to hide. That was scary.
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Eloise Tomkins: Of course it was.
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Eloise Tomkins: But now we're having that same reaction as an adult.
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Eloise Tomkins: and we don't need to feel that same fear anymore.
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Eloise Tomkins: But it's been stored as a blueprint in our body, and we are responding that same way as we did when we're a kid to something that we don't need to anymore.
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Eloise Tomkins: Because we're just making that assumption off that response.
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Eloise Tomkins: have a little bit of curiosity for what's going on in our body, because so often we feel it. We want to get rid of that feeling because it feels a bit icky and uncomfortable. We just want to be like, Oh, go away! But the beauty comes in being able to sit with that discomfort.
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Eloise Tomkins: fear will congratulate you for doing that. Fear will reward you and say, Well done, you did the right thing. It'll tell you that you're being wise, careful, responsible. Well done, gold Star.
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Eloise Tomkins: But what you're actually being is just broke, stuck.
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Eloise Tomkins: And I used to do this so often like I used to just blindly follow my emotional responses with no idea what the heck they were communicating to me. No idea.
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Eloise Tomkins: And you can't kind of just decide to trust yourself more like. That's not how it works. It's not like, oh, I'm going to trust myself more and jump into the deep end. No, it's not going to happen like that. Your body has to feel safe before your intuition. Actual intuition comes back online.
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Eloise Tomkins: What we then want to be able to do is kind of regulate, pause, and allow ourselves to come back into ourselves, so that instead of reacting, we're able to
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Eloise Tomkins: And if you have joined the wealthy as fuck vault, which has meditations that come out each month that help you with your nervous system responses to money. You'll know that one
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Eloise Tomkins: Oh, we can feel our feet on the ground like literally ground ourselves into the earth.
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Eloise Tomkins: Those are some like 3 techniques that I really like to do, because when we do feel overwhelmed, I know sometimes we can like it can feel bigger than us, and I like moving our body or moving my body to kind of bring myself back into my own body container. And then we need to start to learn the difference between the fear voice and that wisdom voice.
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Eloise Tomkins: and that's where it can be tricky, because fear is usually this urgent, anxious.
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Eloise Tomkins: or I'm not sure how this is going to work out. But that's okay.
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Eloise Tomkins: That fear voice will try and control the outcomes.
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Eloise Tomkins: It wants to stay in control, whereas the wisdom voice trusts you to navigate whatever comes up from it.
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Eloise Tomkins: And then finally, we want to start small. We don't want to go into making the biggest decision of our lives. 1st off, we want to start from little tiny micro choices.
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Eloise Tomkins: we can even do this with things that we already know like, what do we want to eat for lunch? Do you want to have banana or an orange with lunch
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Eloise Tomkins: and learning to tune in, and how your body feels around that response can help us start to tune in to our yes and nos our. This feels good. No, that doesn't feel good.
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Eloise Tomkins: And when we can start to build evidence that we can trust ourselves with little things, we can then start to trust ourselves with bigger things, like having those difficult money conversations with our clients, or
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Eloise Tomkins: at some point the more that you start working towards this, your intuition is going to start guiding you towards things that do feel scary.
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Eloise Tomkins: and we want that because in order to reach your goals. You need to move outside your comfort zone.
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Eloise Tomkins: Fear is going to keep you in your comfort zone, which is why a lot of women don't
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Eloise Tomkins: I don't mean that to sound callous.
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Eloise Tomkins: because, you know it doesn't bother me whether you change your financial reality.
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Eloise Tomkins: I want you to, but I can't make you. I can't want it for you. You have to do the work
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Eloise Tomkins: because that's confronting, and I get it, you know, each their own. But if you want to reach your goals, this is how you do it.
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Eloise Tomkins: it's funny. I get scared talking about this sometimes because it is tough love, and I've been taught particularly well again as a woman, but also as a psychologist, not to do the tough love, but to let people figure stuff out on their own, and, you know, ask the reflective questions and have this psychologist hat on. So I'm like, Oh, this is unusual for me. It is a bit more tough, lovey than
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Eloise Tomkins: the decisions that you've been making from fear, good goal accomplished.
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Eloise Tomkins: Then you're the one that I'm speaking to that needs to pull your finger out if I'm completely honest.
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Eloise Tomkins: and I say that myself, as well knowing that I still have to check myself daily
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Eloise Tomkins: it's wild because we can't see our own blind spots.
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Eloise Tomkins: and that is why I have created fire and fortune because I want to help you uncover.
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Eloise Tomkins: What is keeping you stuck. I don't want this to be in the shadows for you anymore. I want you to be able to shine light and go. Oh.
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Eloise Tomkins: and have the skills to be able to move forward because it's not you that's keeping you stuck. I mean, it is. But it's your nervous system.
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Eloise Tomkins: and it's doing that because it wants to keep you safe. It wants to keep you protected. There's a lot of good reasons as to why it's doing it. But now
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Eloise Tomkins: it's time for you to evolve.
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Eloise Tomkins: because you can have the best
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Eloise Tomkins: if your nervous system still feels like money is a threat. Then it's going to sabotage you every single time hands down.
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Eloise Tomkins: So here's what I want you to ask yourself this week.
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Eloise Tomkins: when you're making a decision. Whether it's what to put on your sandwich, whether it's butter or mayonnaise
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Eloise Tomkins: you can check in with yourself. Am I trusting my wisdom right now, or am I trusting my fear? And I know that might sound a little bit ridiculous when you're just making a sandwich.
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Eloise Tomkins: and when we can start to notice whether it's tense tight, or whether it's grounded open and at ease. That's how we build that self trust muscle, because you already have this amazing wisdom and intuition inside of you that's going to help you grow your business and make the kind of money that you want
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Eloise Tomkins: that's already in there.
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Eloise Tomkins: You've just been confusing survival brain
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Eloise Tomkins: with that voice of your inner wisdom and your inner knowing. And now we need to acknowledge. Yep, fear cool, great, and the goal is not to never feel fear.
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Eloise Tomkins: but it is to stop letting fear make the decisions for you.
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Eloise Tomkins: So if this episode has called you out a little. You are feeling a little bit, called out One good! 2, fire and fortune. It is exactly for you. So
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Eloise Tomkins: Link is in the bio. Come, join. It's $27, and it's 3 sessions over 3 days that are going to be recorded, although attending live is always where the best juice lives. But if you're ready to learn how to start trusting yourselves and not letting fear run everything, you're going to want to be in that room
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Eloise Tomkins: until next week.
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Eloise Tomkins: Have fun making money in your business. I'll chat to you all soon. All right, bye.
