Why Hiding Your Fire Keeps You Broke

I used to think that if I clung to the shadows of life, that I'd be safe. Not consciously, of course. But somewhere along the way - probably when I was told I talked "too much", was "too direct", and heck, even "too ambitious" - I learnt to soften my edges. I filtered my inner fire, and ended up becoming someone I didn't recognise.

Somehow, I thought this would make me accepted, respected... Taken seriously. Especially in this wild online world where I’ve got “psychologist” stamped next to my name like a warning label... “Don’t say anything too real, too edgy, too much”

You know what.

I am too much. And I’m done pretending I’m not.

For years I held myself back... not just in my life before business. But I recently realised I'd even been doing it on my podcast.. in my business, in my content.

Not because I didn’t have something to say, but because I thought if people saw the full me, the unfiltered, swearing, smart-as-fuck, slightly unhinged rebel version… everything I had worked so hard for would all fall apart. That I’d lose my clients, my credibility... Even my psych license (I mean, that's not even relevant in this space).

And that’s the irony, right? I help women unhook from financial fear and trauma, and yet I was still afraid.

So why am I sharing this with you. Why am I, a money coach and psychologist, telling you that even I get hooked into my own subconscious patterns when I'm meant to be the one helping YOU through yours?

I'm sharing this because NO ONE is immune to nervous system wiring. Not you. Not me. Not even the coaches with seven-figure launches and sleek funnels.

We can know all the strategy. We can even teach mindset to others. Heck, like me we can even teach nervous system and somatic work.

But until our body feels safe holding more.. more money, more visibility, more power.. we’ll keep unconsciously slamming on the brakes just to stay “safe.”

I want you to see that even the person guiding you through the fog is still walking the same path... just a few steps ahead, with a flashlight and some really effective tools. Because the goal isn’t perfection.

It’s regulation. It’s self-trust. And it’s learning how to be fully expressed and financially held at the same damn time.

So if you’ve been dimming your own light, biting your tongue, or contorting yourself into what you think a “professional woman” should look like just to get paid... I see you.

And I need you to know something that took me decades to unlearn about myself.

There’s nothing wrong with you.

You’re not broken.

You’re just running on a nervous system that was never taught it’s safe to shine fucking brightly and earn wildly at the same time.

But guess what.

Safety can be rewired. Power can be practiced. And wealth... Well that gets to be held by the real you. The too much you. The uncensored, wildly worthy, regulated-as-hell version of you.

That’s who I’m here for. That’s who I’m building this for. And, I'm SO excited to see what becomes possible when you stop apologising for taking up space.